If you are not in an urgent situation, but you are the victim of family or domestic violence, it can be hard to make the decision to leave.
You have the right to live in a respectful and loving relationship and you do not need to live in fear.
If you are in a domestically violent relationship, we recommend you do the following to prepare for an emergency:
Find a support system with supportive family members or friends
Find someone you can really trust, whether it’s a family member or friend. You do not have to go through this alone. Agree on a code word, so that if you are in a domestically violent situation you can either send a message or make a call and say the word for help. Also, prepare an excuse so you can leave immediately if necessary.
Contact a support service
Support services can help provide you with help and encouragement through shared experiences. You can contact one of the following:
Make a safety plan
Make a plan so that you can stay safe and escape quickly in the case of an emergency. Your plan should include:
- emergency numbers, such as your support person and support groups.
- emergency accommodation (where you feel safe and that the perpetrator will not know where you are): know where you are going to stay in an emergency, whether at a friend or family member’s home or at a domestic violence shelter.
- important documents and information, such as passports, birth certificates, bank account details, property titles to the house, Centrelink details and any other important documents or information that you or the children need.
- Pack an “escape bag”, which is a small bag, for you and your children that won’t be noticeable to your partner.
Change your passwords and turn off location settings
Once you have left, you’ll need to change all of your passwords and turn off location settings on all devices, including but not limited to:
- mobile phones
- Apple ID password (as your text message can still be sent to the other side if they have a device linked to your Apple ID)
- email addresses
- bank accounts
- any other device, account or app you have which may have been shared with the perpetrator.